Kids need to feel love and sometimes it's hard to know if you're showing enough. Experts offer easy strategies to make your child feel more loved.

By Erica Lamberg
October 26, 2020
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成人小视频appThe most fundamental gifts we can give our children are acceptance, stability, and most importantly, love. Of course parents love their children. But love is not only a noun, it's also a verb. Showing love to your child can, at times, be complicated.

成人小视频appThere are small ways to express your love to your child so they feel it—and that feeling of a parent's love can improve every aspect of their life.

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"Love and security assures them they don't need to worry about adult-sized problems and it gives them the freedom to just be kids," says , a psychotherapist, host of the Mentally Strong People podcast, and author of . "When kids feel secure and loved, they are free to focus on other things—like learning and creativity."

成人小视频appRead on to learn what experts say will help your child feel more loved.

Listen to Your Kid

成人小视频appYour child wants to know they are important to you. A good way to do that? Make sure your child knows you're interested in their thoughts. "Put down the electronics and show a genuine interest in what your kids have to say," says Morin. "Talk to them, ask for their opinions about various real-world subjects, and demonstrate that their thoughts and ideas matter to you."

Have Fun Together

There's no need to make everything a learning activity or a challenge. Find ways to simply have fun together. "Play games, be silly, and step into their world," suggests Morin. "Allow for unstructured time just to be together. This is the best way to bond with kids and show them that you value them enough to create time to spend together."

Hug Them More

成人小视频appSaying "I love you" to your child is very important, but don't underestimate the power physical touch has in reinforcing the loving bond with your children at every age. "Especially for teenagers, that no longer come running asking for it, they still need the physical reassurance—same as adults," says , a psychotherapist and self-care coach. "Make the effort to hug them each and every day as much as possible."

Go For Small Gestures

成人小视频appNot the lovey-dovey type? Parents can still demonstrate their love with small gestures. Morin suggests parents write notes and put it in their lunch. Offer praise. Give high fives. Say kind things about your kids in front of other people. "Your actions speak volumes about how much you care for them," she insists. "They will feel loved when you do extra little things for them or when you say nice things about them."

Create a Special Routine Together

This ritual doesn't have to be complicated or expensive. The commodity you are giving your child is your time. "Maybe it's a fun bedtime saying or routine, or making their favorite cookies together on Sundays," says Sadie. "Whatever it is, do it routinely and make it unique and special for each child."

Include Your Kid in Family Decisions

成人小视频appAsking children for their input whether it's where to get take-out for dinner or something bigger like what they think about relocating acknowledges that what they have to say matters and that you value their opinion. "Knowing that they, too, have a say increases their feeling of belonging as well as security," says Sadie.

Keep Structure in Your Home

Children thrive on consistency. "Maintain the child's bedtime, mealtimes, wake-up time, homework schedule, and extra-curricular activities," says , Psy.D., family and relationship psychotherapist, and author of . "The more stable your child's life and routine the more he or she will feel secure and loved, and the less anxiety he will suffer."

Pay Attention to All Your Kids Equally

If you have two or more children, making each feel loved, secure, and important takes a bit more planning and thought. How to do that?

First: honor their individuality. Don't compare your children and support all of their talents and pursuits. "If one kid wants to be a soccer player and the other wants to play the clarinet, show them that you value their interests—even when they aren't things you can relate to," says Morin.

成人小视频appSecond: spend individual time with each child. Every child wants and needs to feel important and be front and center in the mind of their parent, says Dr. Walfish. Spend at least 10 to 15 minutes each day giving one-on-one attention while doing an activity your kid loves. This is another time when experts say you should shut your phone off and pay complete attention to your kid.

Realize Family Dynamics Matter

You may not realize that family dynamics are impacting your child but your kid's environment can play a role in making them feel your love. Kids learn a lot about relationships by seeing how their parents interact. "Parents who show affection and love for each other teach kids how to treat family members," says Morin. Being a good role model is important since your child watches everything you do.

Understand Material Things Don't Equate to Love

成人小视频appIt may sound cliché, but kids really do prefer your presence rather than your presents. Morin urges parents to think back to their own childhoods and consider what they remember most. "You'll likely recall doing fun activities with your parents," says Morin. "And you probably don't remember what you got for your birthday when you were 10. With that in mind, it's important to think about the life lessons you want your kids to learn and the type of memories you want to create with them."

Support Your Child Even When They Slip

Children need to know they are loved even if they make a mistake. "Be their support," says , Ph.D., pediatric psychologist at Akron Children's Hospital. Express that you're proud of them for taking responsibility and then use it as a learning opportunity for the future. Dr. Gerak suggests parents discuss the situation and pose these questions: What did you learn? What would you do differently next time?

"This gives them the message they aren't always going to be perfect, no one is, but that you have faith they will figure it out and they are competent to manage this," says Dr. Gerak. At the same time, you are also building their confidence since you are helping them find ways to fix their mistakes rather than stepping in for them. A double win!

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